If your child isn’t calling you “Mom” or “Dad,” it can feel confusing and even heartbreaking. Many parents look forward to hearing those words as a sign of connection and recognition, so when it doesn’t happen, it’s natural to wonder why—and what you can do to help. The good news is that there are ways to encourage this important part of communication, even if your child isn’t using words yet.

First, it helps to know that every child develops communication at their own pace. Some children are slower to use names because of speech or language delays, while others—especially children with autism—might not yet understand the social meaning behind using a name to get your attention. This doesn’t mean they don’t know who you are or don’t feel bonded to you—it just means they may need a little extra support to express it.

Start by reinforcing any attempt your child makes to connect with you. If they reach for you, look at you, or make a sound when they want your attention, respond warmly and consistently. These are important early steps that can be shaped into more specific communication, like using your name. You can also model the word “Mom” or “Dad” often during your day. Try saying, “Come to Mom!” or “Give it to Dad,” while pointing to yourself, so your child begins to associate the word with you.

Make it fun and rewarding when your child attempts to say your name. If they say “Mom,” even once or in a whisper, respond with big smiles, hugs, or a favorite toy. Positive reinforcement helps make that word feel meaningful and exciting. For children who aren’t speaking yet, you can use pictures, sign language, or even a speech-generating device to start building those same connections.

Remember, this is about more than a label—it’s about building a relationship through communication. Keep your tone encouraging, your expectations realistic, and celebrate the small steps. With consistency, patience, and love, your child can learn to call you by name—and that moment will be worth the wait.